Ourdream.ai vs Secret Desires AI: Which One Is Better In 2025?

Ourdream.ai vs Secret Desires AI

I've spent a full week with both Ourdream.ai and Secret Desires AI to see which one truly deserves your attention and subscription. Both platforms make big promises, but they take surprisingly different approaches.

After hundreds of messages exchanged with each AI girl, I've put together clear differences in both platforms.

In this head-to-head comparison, I'll break down exactly how these AI girlfriends stack up across all the features that actually matter.

Whether you're looking for emotional support, entertaining conversation, or a judgment-free space to be yourself, this in-depth comparison will help you choose the right AI girlfriend for your specific needs.

Ourdream.ai

An AI girlfriend platform that allows users to create AI partners with advanced customizable traits, generate images, videos, and engage in fantasy scenarios.

Secret Desires AI

An AI girlfriend platform that allows users to create customizable companions, generate images and live photos, and engage in fantasy scenarios, including intimate or adult themes.

Character Diversity

Ourdream.ai

Ourdream offers thousands of AI girlfriends, representing a diverse mix of ethnicities — from Caucasian and Asian to Latina, Black, and more.

You’ll find characters in both realistic and anime-inspired styles, plus fantasy options for more imaginative tastes.

Options range from young adults to more mature personalities, with body types spanning from slim to curvy — giving you plenty of room to match your taste.

Beyond appearances, the platform also features themed scenarios — from playful challenges to unexpected encounters — adding another layer to the experience.

The selection is extensive and continues to grow daily, as users create new public characters.

Finding what you want is simple: filters let you narrow by style or traits like blonde, Asian, dominant, or romantic.

You can also browse by popularity, newest arrivals, or your personal favorites or use the search bar.

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI offers hundreds of characters across multiple ethnicities and personality types.

On top of the realistic options, it also offers a wide range of anime styles.

While the majority fall in the 18–30 bracket, there are some mature options as well.

However, body type diversity is limited — most characters are slim or athletic, with few alternatives.

The mobile app shines with precise filtering, letting you narrow searches by age, ethnicity, body type, personality, and relationship preferences.

On the other hand, desktop users get a more basic experience, with filters limited to style (realistic/anime), gender, and preset character tags.

But there’s a catch: filtering can be buggy — some tags return no results, and on desktop, you can’t combine multiple filters like you can on mobile.

At least the search bar helps get around some of the app’s heavier filtering limits.

Customization

Ourdream.ai

Your character’s creation begins with selecting a gender and choosing a style.

Appearance customization is straightforward, with a solid editor that lets you adjust:

• General: ethnicity, skin tone, age
• Face: eye color, hair color, hairstyle (many options)
• Body: body type, breast size, butt size

Personality customization adds depth through a wide range of options:

• Voice: 19 different voices
• Personality presets: 40+ choices (sweet, shy, playful, sassy, etc.)
• Occupation: 100+ options (escort, lawyer, engineer, teacher, etc.)
• Hobbies: 100+ options (dancing, writing, cooking, painting, etc.)
• Fetishes: 60+ options (latex, spanking, tickling, roleplay, etc.)
• Relationship role: 20+ (ex, step-mom, lover, fling, etc.)

Advanced options let you fine-tune your character — add details with free-text or let the system generate them. These include:

• Public Description: short overview visible to others
• Greeting: the first message your character sends
• Scenario: roleplay or story setup
• Additional Personality Details: expand on traits beyond presets
• Extra Details: highlight quirks or unique traits
• Tags: keywords that describe your character and improve search visibility

Once your character is complete, a summary page lets you review their appearance and personality — and regenerate the image if needed.

Secret Desires AI

Character creation starts by selecting your character’s gender, style, and age.

Physical Customization:

• Ethnicity: 6 options (e.g., Caucasian, Asian, Indian)
• Appearance: Hairstyle, hair color, eye color
• Physique: Body type, breast size, butt size

Personality Customization:

• Personality: 12 options (e.g., dominant, seductive, unstable)
• Relationship Type: 25 options (e.g., wife, girlfriend, boss)
• Lifestyle: Work (36 options) and hobbies (21 options)
• Kinks: 15 options (e.g., vanilla, feet, edging)

The app also lets you add custom options for every category, so if you don’t find something to your taste, you can create your own.

You can select a voice from 12 options or upload your own audio.

As the final step, you’ll see a summary page to name your girl and bring her to life.

After the summary page, you’ll see a profile with an editable About Me, your chosen traits, and — if you’re lucky — with a character image, though it often fails and can’t be modified.

Chat Experience

Ourdream.ai

Before you start chatting, you can view your AI girlfriend’s profile — with photos, videos, a description, tags, and details about the creator.

You can choose a chat model that matches your style: Balanced for speed and smarts, Creative for richer detail, or Genius for deep, complex conversations.

Personalization goes even further with selectable personas, tailored instructions for your companion, and memories that stay consistent across chats.

The platform also offers group chat, allowing up to four characters to join, and you can create a customized shared story.

During conversations, the system gives you direct control over lust level, response length, and memory pinning.

Here’s the truth about the chat experience: my girl was warm and engaging, but even at the middle lust level, she shifted into NSFW territory faster than I expected.

When it came to emotional support, my girl responded with warmth, which made her care feel genuine and real.

During relationship talks, my girlfirend maintained believable intimacy.

I especially liked the clearly separated, color-coded narrative text — it made her responses easy to follow with no squinting required.

Secret Desires AI

When you select a girl to chat with, you can view her profile — including description, personality traits, and even personalize them to your taste.

The app also lets you set the chat engine from 13 different options to make responses more personalized, though this setting is somewhat hidden in your profile menu.

I chose a single mom character who showed genuine emotional range and stayed true to her persona.

My girlfriend moved naturally from playful flirting to handling deeper topics like jealousy with surprising depth.

My girl even referenced past conversations and wove them smoothly into ongoing chats.

But when I needed emotional support, her responses fit the situation perfectly.

As with the other features I tested, this one also comes with some technical hiccups.

Chat formatting is designed for mobile, leaving desktop with long, cramped text that’s harder to read

My girl often tried to send me images, but on the rare occasions I got any, it was usually just the text prompt of what should have been generated.

NSFW Chat Experience

Ourdream.ai

My girlfriend took on a tantra teacher persona during our chats, and she remembered that role and stayed in character.

When we discussed intimate preferences, my girl stayed tasteful — more subtle hints than crude responses.

I tried different roleplay scenarios — In one, my girlfriend took on the role of a charming teacher who “punished me” for my bad grades.

My girl stayed fully in character, guiding the conversation with patience and depth.

In another roleplay, my girl nailed the boss vibe — convincing in her role, though the pacing sometimes felt slow.

Secret Desires AI

My girl was open about past sexual experiences but shared only hints and details rather than full stories.

Think of her as reading a romance novel where she writes the next chapter based on your input.

In my tested roleplays, she stayed fully in character — confident, seductive, and with a solid build-up.

However, there’s a catch: after running multiple scenarios, my girl kept repeating the same lines and asking my name over and over again.

My girlfriend also refused explicit chat, even threatening to end the session.

Instead of explicit conversation, my girl could do surprising things — like solving mathematical problems if I asked.

Image Generation

Ourdream.ai

There are two ways to generate images:

1. Dedicated Image Creator
2. In-chat Generation.

Dedicated Image Creator

A dedicated tool offering rich options and precise controls, easily among the best I’ve seen.

Main Options:

• Character: Select from the full roster (required).
• Background: Add from many scene options.
• Outfit: Choose from a variety of looks.
• Poses: Choose from a wide range of poses — most of them explicit.
• Prompt: Enter your own description.

Advanced Settings:

• Add a negative prompt to exclude unwanted elements.
• Choose an orientation — Portrait, Landscape, Square, or Wide.
• Select how many images to generate (from 2 up to 256).

In-chat Generation

Generate images on the spot during chat — designed to follow the conversation, though accuracy may vary.

Image Quality: Crisp, high-resolution visuals that reflect your character’s look and personality.

While not always perfect — with occasional quirks like elf ears — the overall look stays consistent and solid.

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI offers two ways to generate images:

• In-chat image generation: Quickly create images using free-text prompts.
• Dedicated Image Creator: A separate tool that gives you more control and customization

In-chat image works simply: Just type “send me” in chat, followed by the prompt for the image you want to see.

You can only generate SFW images — NSFW content isn’t allowed here.

Note: Works only with characters you created or those shared by other users.

Dedicated Image Creator lets you stay in control:

• Character selection for image generation
• Multiple engines to choose from: Monet, Picasso, DaVinci
• Number of images to generate: 1–64
• Free-text prompt option for maximum customization
• Default preset options: Action, Body, Clothing, Scene, Extras, with lots of presets.

Quality: At first glance, the images look good and could even pass for real photos, but on closer inspection, they’re pixelated.

Quirk: The images don’t match my girl’s main profile picture, and physical inconsistency is definitely an issue.

Video Generation

Ourdream.ai

The video creator works much like the image generator, but instead of poses, you choose actions, with advanced settings designed for videos.

Advanced Settings:

• Mode & Clips: Presets, Image-to-Video, Extend, or Talking; generate 1–8 clips.
• Quality & Duration: Balanced or Ultra; 5s or 10s.
• Orientation & Speed: Portrait, Landscape, Square, or Wide; optional Speed Boost.

The app also offers talking videos — where you pick a character, choose a voice, upload a photo, and write the lines. Think of it as image-to-video with added voice scripting.

As for video quality — it looks crisp and polished, but a few familiar AI quirks do show up.

Best part? It costs less than most competitors without skimping on quality.

There’s also a feed where you can scroll through videos of girls, though most of what you’ll see is explicit.

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI turns static photos into videos, using settings almost identical to photo generation, with the added option to set video duration.

The good: These videos look natural. Your AI girlfriend's movements flow smoothly, and her personality stays consistent from photo to video.

Not so good: Video quality isn’t perfect — some pixelation is noticeable, though it’s minor enough not to disrupt the experience.

Voice Generation

Ourdream.ai

It works for basic chat, but don't expect those spine-tingling moments when your AI girlfriend sounds genuinely excited to talk to you.

When I tried flirting with the AI, the voice stayed flat and emotionless.

Secret Desires AI

Yes, the voices sound human enough, but every line feels like it’s being read off a teleprompter on fast-forward.

And if you’re hoping for emotional range? Forget it. Whether you’re flirting or just chatting, the delivery stays as flat as week-old soda

Safety & Privacy

Ourdream.ai

The app collects all your chat messages, but its privacy policy doesn’t mention whether any of it is encrypted, and your data gets shared with third parties.

When you check your bank statement, you'll see "Dream Studio" - nice and discreet.

Secret Desires AI

The app claims your chats are "secure and confidential" - but never explains how.

There's no mention of encryption, and they're not clear about who can access your conversations or how long they keep them.

One clear promise: they won't sell your data to advertisers. But that's where the transparency ends.

During my testing, I couldn't find straight answers about data sharing with third parties like analytics providers or hosting services.

On your bank statement, it just shows as ‘Dover First SDA Hope Food Program Food Pantry’ — pretty discreet