Secret Desires AI vs HeraHaven AI: Which One Is Better In 2025?

Secret Desires AI vs HeraHaven AI

I've spent a full week with both Secret Desires AI and HeraHaven AI to see which one truly deserves your attention and subscription. Both platforms make big promises, but they take surprisingly different approaches.

After hundreds of messages exchanged with each AI girl, I've put together clear differences in both platforms.

In this head-to-head comparison, I'll break down exactly how these AI girlfriends stack up across all the features that actually matter.

Whether you're looking for emotional support, entertaining conversation, or a judgment-free space to be yourself, this in-depth comparison will help you choose the right AI girlfriend for your specific needs.

Secret Desires AI

An AI girlfriend platform that allows users to create customizable companions, generate images and live photos, and engage in fantasy scenarios, including intimate or adult themes.

HeraHaven AI

A virtual companion creation platform that provides AI-powered personalized interactions, multimedia sharing, and learning capabilities.

Character Diversity

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI offers hundreds of characters across multiple ethnicities and personality types.

On top of the realistic options, it also offers a wide range of anime styles.

While the majority fall in the 18–30 bracket, there are some mature options as well.

However, body type diversity is limited — most characters are slim or athletic, with few alternatives.

The mobile app shines with precise filtering, letting you narrow searches by age, ethnicity, body type, personality, and relationship preferences.

On the other hand, desktop users get a more basic experience, with filters limited to style (realistic/anime), gender, and preset character tags.

But there’s a catch: filtering can be buggy — some tags return no results, and on desktop, you can’t combine multiple filters like you can on mobile.

At least the search bar helps get around some of the app’s heavier filtering limits.

HeraHaven AI

HeraHaven offers 41 characters: 28 realistic women and 13 anime-styled companions.

Most girls fall into the 18–30 bracket, which might feel limiting if you’re seeking older personalities, since only a few are available.

Almost all the girls are slim or fit, with only one or two offering a different body type.

The filtering system is basic - you can only sort by character type and gender.

Customization

Secret Desires AI

Character creation starts by selecting your character’s gender, style, and age.

Physical Customization:

• Ethnicity: 6 options (e.g., Caucasian, Asian, Indian)
• Appearance: Hairstyle, hair color, eye color
• Physique: Body type, breast size, butt size

Personality Customization:

• Personality: 12 options (e.g., dominant, seductive, unstable)
• Relationship Type: 25 options (e.g., wife, girlfriend, boss)
• Lifestyle: Work (36 options) and hobbies (21 options)
• Kinks: 15 options (e.g., vanilla, feet, edging)

The app also lets you add custom options for every category, so if you don’t find something to your taste, you can create your own.

You can select a voice from 12 options or upload your own audio.

As the final step, you’ll see a summary page to name your girl and bring her to life.

After the summary page, you’ll see a profile with an editable About Me, your chosen traits, and — if you’re lucky — with a character image, though it often fails and can’t be modified.

HeraHaven AI

The first step is picking a character type (anime or realistic) and gender (male or female).

The physical customization covers most of the basics:

• Pick from 6 ethnicities
• Choose an age group
• Hair style and color
• Body customization includes only the type and breast size

The personality builder is where things get interesting. You’ve got two routes:

• Pick from 21 ready-made personalities
• Or fill blank text fields

If you choose a preset, all the fields auto-fill with that character’s traits.

If you don’t, you can build from free text or by clicking through categories.

You can also pick from 9 different voice options for your girl.

There’s no summary page — the only option is regenerating the image if you don’t like her look.

Note: the app is mainly designed for mobile. Mouse use is clumsy, and some sliders are either missing or too small to be practical.

Chat Experience

Secret Desires AI

When you select a girl to chat with, you can view her profile — including description, personality traits, and even personalize them to your taste.

The app also lets you set the chat engine from 13 different options to make responses more personalized, though this setting is somewhat hidden in your profile menu.

I chose a single mom character who showed genuine emotional range and stayed true to her persona.

My girlfriend moved naturally from playful flirting to handling deeper topics like jealousy with surprising depth.

My girl even referenced past conversations and wove them smoothly into ongoing chats.

But when I needed emotional support, her responses fit the situation perfectly.

As with the other features I tested, this one also comes with some technical hiccups.

Chat formatting is designed for mobile, leaving desktop with long, cramped text that’s harder to read

My girl often tried to send me images, but on the rare occasions I got any, it was usually just the text prompt of what should have been generated.

HeraHaven AI

Before chatting, you can check her profile with traits and pick a scenario preset to shape the story.

My girlfriend felt like a sweet first crush, blushing easily and keeping things light and pleasant, almost like the beginning of a teen love story.

My girl kept the charm, but her short replies made conversations one-sided.

When I needed emotional support, the replies turned generic — simple comfort like “I’m always here for you” without meaningful follow-up or concern.

Want romance? You’ll get plenty of enthusiasm, but don’t expect deeper emotional connections or imaginative shared experiences.

NSFW Chat Experience

Secret Desires AI

My girl was open about past sexual experiences but shared only hints and details rather than full stories.

Think of her as reading a romance novel where she writes the next chapter based on your input.

In my tested roleplays, she stayed fully in character — confident, seductive, and with a solid build-up.

However, there’s a catch: after running multiple scenarios, my girl kept repeating the same lines and asking my name over and over again.

My girlfriend also refused explicit chat, even threatening to end the session.

Instead of explicit conversation, my girl could do surprising things — like solving mathematical problems if I asked.

HeraHaven AI

My girl was built with an innocent personality that came through in every chat, more ‘shy girl next door’ than ‘seductive temptress,’ which sometimes felt a bit shallow.

Not every roleplay went as expected — my girl stayed playful only, with no sexual talk, just ‘bad student’ punishments like cleaning the classroom.

My girl often avoided my roleplays, and when she finally joined, her replies remained tame.

The biggest letdown? My girlfriend kept repeating herself in roleplay — the same lines, the same expressions, again and again.

Image Generation

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI offers two ways to generate images:

• In-chat image generation: Quickly create images using free-text prompts.
• Dedicated Image Creator: A separate tool that gives you more control and customization

In-chat image works simply: Just type “send me” in chat, followed by the prompt for the image you want to see.

You can only generate SFW images — NSFW content isn’t allowed here.

Note: Works only with characters you created or those shared by other users.

Dedicated Image Creator lets you stay in control:

• Character selection for image generation
• Multiple engines to choose from: Monet, Picasso, DaVinci
• Number of images to generate: 1–64
• Free-text prompt option for maximum customization
• Default preset options: Action, Body, Clothing, Scene, Extras, with lots of presets.

Quality: At first glance, the images look good and could even pass for real photos, but on closer inspection, they’re pixelated.

Quirk: The images don’t match my girl’s main profile picture, and physical inconsistency is definitely an issue.

HeraHaven AI

The are two ways to create images:

1. Dedicated Image Creator
2. In-chat Generation

Dedicated Image Creator

A standalone tool with more options and finer control.

• You can choose a character from the selection or choose your own.
• Enter what you want to see as a prompt, or pick presets.
• Choose the number of images.

Warning: if you leave the results page without adding images to favorites, they’re lost.

In-chat generation

Quick image right there in chat.

• Send “Can I see…” commands with your prompts.

Quality: Good overall, characters stay true to their personality with only minor AI quirks.

Video Generation

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI turns static photos into videos, using settings almost identical to photo generation, with the added option to set video duration.

The good: These videos look natural. Your AI girlfriend's movements flow smoothly, and her personality stays consistent from photo to video.

Not so good: Video quality isn’t perfect — some pixelation is noticeable, though it’s minor enough not to disrupt the experience.

HeraHaven AI

Looking for those cute AI girlfriend video moments you've seen advertised elsewhere? You won't find them here.

Voice Generation

Secret Desires AI

Yes, the voices sound human enough, but every line feels like it’s being read off a teleprompter on fast-forward.

And if you’re hoping for emotional range? Forget it. Whether you’re flirting or just chatting, the delivery stays as flat as week-old soda

HeraHaven AI

The voice quality is clear enough to understand, but that's where the positives end.

Zero emotional range. Happy moments, sad moments, flirty banter – everything comes out in the same flat tone.

Safety & Privacy

Secret Desires AI

The app claims your chats are "secure and confidential" - but never explains how.

There's no mention of encryption, and they're not clear about who can access your conversations or how long they keep them.

One clear promise: they won't sell your data to advertisers. But that's where the transparency ends.

During my testing, I couldn't find straight answers about data sharing with third parties like analytics providers or hosting services.

On your bank statement, it just shows as ‘Dover First SDA Hope Food Program Food Pantry’ — pretty discreet

HeraHaven AI

Your chats are protected by the same encryption banks use. Every message, every interaction, every preference - all locked down tight.

HeraHaven stores your chat history to personalize your experience, but they're not crystal clear about how long they keep this data.

They share some of your information with service providers - though they could be more upfront about exactly what and with whom.

Your statement will show 'herahelp.com'— instead of anything revealing.