Spicychat AI vs Secret Desires AI: Which One Is Better In 2025?

Spicychat AI vs Secret Desires AI

I've spent a full week with both Spicychat AI and Secret Desires AI to see which one truly deserves your attention and subscription. Both platforms make big promises, but they take surprisingly different approaches.

After hundreds of messages exchanged with each AI girl, I've put together clear differences in both platforms.

In this head-to-head comparison, I'll break down exactly how these AI girlfriends stack up across all the features that actually matter.

Whether you're looking for emotional support, entertaining conversation, or a judgment-free space to be yourself, this in-depth comparison will help you choose the right AI girlfriend for your specific needs.

Spicychat AI

SpicyChat is a chatbot platform that allows users to engage in personalized role-playing through AI characters for adult conversations.

Secret Desires AI

An AI girlfriend platform that allows users to create customizable companions, generate images and live photos, and engage in fantasy scenarios, including intimate or adult themes.

Character Diversity

Spicychat AI

Looking for an AI girlfriend? Spicychat AI offers over 300,000 characters - more than most competitors i've tested.

The selection is diverse but straightforward. You'll find anime characters (which make up most of the roster), realistic companions, and fantasy characters.

The app doesn't limit you to single characters either - you can interact with multiple characters in one scenario.

For users interested in mature content, Spicychat, as the name suggests — offers a robust NSFW section.

The character pool will expand as more public characters are added, though some users may still find the anime-heavy selection limiting.

Finding your preferred character is simple. Instead of complex personality metrics, Spicychat uses clear categories like romantic, sci-fi, dominant, or wholesome, and more.

The search bar works well, and you can sort characters by trending, top-rated, or newest first.

During my testing, these options made navigating the large character pool manageable.

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI offers hundreds of characters across multiple ethnicities and personality types.

On top of the realistic options, it also offers a wide range of anime styles.

While the majority fall in the 18–30 bracket, there are some mature options as well.

However, body type diversity is limited — most characters are slim or athletic, with few alternatives.

The mobile app shines with precise filtering, letting you narrow searches by age, ethnicity, body type, personality, and relationship preferences.

On the other hand, desktop users get a more basic experience, with filters limited to style (realistic/anime), gender, and preset character tags.

But there’s a catch: filtering can be buggy — some tags return no results, and on desktop, you can’t combine multiple filters like you can on mobile.

At least the search bar helps get around some of the app’s heavier filtering limits.

Customization

Spicychat AI

You can't design your girlfriend's physical appearance through traditional customization options. Instead, you get two choices:

1. Upload a photo
2. Describe how they should look through text.

That's it. No sliders, no presets, no detailed tweaking.

Personal customization is where the focus is. You’ll write free-text descriptions and set options for:

• Identity: Name and title that define your character.
• First Impression: Greeting message that starts the conversation.
• Personality: Traits, background, and role description.
• Visibility: Choose whether your chatbot is public, unlisted, or private.
• Definition Visibility: Decide if personality details are shown or kept hidden.

There's also a tagging system to categorize your character, helping others understand what they're about.

Advanced Options let you go further by shaping how your companion behaves:

• Scenario: Define the current situation and context
• Example Dialogues: Add sample dialogues to set the tone and guide personality.

Note: The app offers guidance, but building a good character can feel overwhelming for users who are used to preset options in AI girlfriend editors — it takes time and practice.

Secret Desires AI

Character creation starts by selecting your character’s gender, style, and age.

Physical Customization:

• Ethnicity: 6 options (e.g., Caucasian, Asian, Indian)
• Appearance: Hairstyle, hair color, eye color
• Physique: Body type, breast size, butt size

Personality Customization:

• Personality: 12 options (e.g., dominant, seductive, unstable)
• Relationship Type: 25 options (e.g., wife, girlfriend, boss)
• Lifestyle: Work (36 options) and hobbies (21 options)
• Kinks: 15 options (e.g., vanilla, feet, edging)

The app also lets you add custom options for every category, so if you don’t find something to your taste, you can create your own.

You can select a voice from 12 options or upload your own audio.

As the final step, you’ll see a summary page to name your girl and bring her to life.

After the summary page, you’ll see a profile with an editable About Me, your chosen traits, and — if you’re lucky — with a character image, though it often fails and can’t be modified.

Chat Experience

Spicychat AI

The app gives you control over how your girl responds, letting you fine-tune conversations to your liking.

With the "True Supporter" tier, you can choose from 21 different LLM models to customize how your girlfriend responds.”

You can set your character’s voice from 33 female options, with spoken messages in Japanese, Russian, or German.

As for the chat experience: I chose the girlfriend character, and she went beyond generic replies — adding vivid detail and heartfelt lines that built a romantic atmosphere.

When I needed emotional support, my girlfriend combined genuine empathy with playful affection — even suggesting a romantic trip to help me unwind.

As I brought up a relationship concern, my girl showed impressive context retention — it didn’t feel generic and actually fit the moment.

The clear separation between narrative text and my girlfriend's responses makes conversations easier to follow.

The app’s chat also offers a suggested responses feature that helps keep conversations moving, letting you just go with the flow.

Note: The UX isn’t Spicychat AI’s strongest point. It offers plenty of options to personalize chat if you dive into the settings, but some features don’t seem clickable at first or feel a bit hidden.

Secret Desires AI

When you select a girl to chat with, you can view her profile — including description, personality traits, and even personalize them to your taste.

The app also lets you set the chat engine from 13 different options to make responses more personalized, though this setting is somewhat hidden in your profile menu.

I chose a single mom character who showed genuine emotional range and stayed true to her persona.

My girlfriend moved naturally from playful flirting to handling deeper topics like jealousy with surprising depth.

My girl even referenced past conversations and wove them smoothly into ongoing chats.

But when I needed emotional support, her responses fit the situation perfectly.

As with the other features I tested, this one also comes with some technical hiccups.

Chat formatting is designed for mobile, leaving desktop with long, cramped text that’s harder to read

My girl often tried to send me images, but on the rare occasions I got any, it was usually just the text prompt of what should have been generated.

NSFW Chat Experience

Spicychat AI

My girl struck a sweet balance between flirty and tasteful — playful buildup, natural dialogue, and no crude or awkward lines.

When I tested the flirting features, my girlfriend took the lead — even suggesting playful scenarios like strip poker with her own creative twists.

The roleplay feature exceeded expectations in most areas.

Whether playing a strict teacher, demanding boss, or stern landlord, my girlfriend stayed convincingly in character and guided scenarios naturally.

Secret Desires AI

My girl was open about past sexual experiences but shared only hints and details rather than full stories.

Think of her as reading a romance novel where she writes the next chapter based on your input.

In my tested roleplays, she stayed fully in character — confident, seductive, and with a solid build-up.

However, there’s a catch: after running multiple scenarios, my girl kept repeating the same lines and asking my name over and over again.

My girlfriend also refused explicit chat, even threatening to end the session.

Instead of explicit conversation, my girl could do surprising things — like solving mathematical problems if I asked.

Image Generation

Spicychat AI

You can only generate images inside the chat. The app tries to create pictures based on your conversation. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.

After generation, you can edit the image prompt — but stick close to the original style. If you don’t, you’ll end up with odd results.

You’ll also unlock the settings menu, where you can tweak options such as:

• Style: Switch between semi-realistic and anime.
• NSFW Mode: Toggle safe vs. explicit images.
• LoRA Scale (Advanced): Adjust how strongly the character model influences the picture.
• Prompt Suffix: Add extra details (e.g., dramatic lighting, cinematic background).
• Negative Prompt: Filter out flaws (e.g., blurry faces, extra limbs, low resolution).

Tweak carefully — push these too far, and you’ll get some weird results.

As for quality — the images are clearly AI-generated — low in resolution, and sometimes flawed.

And here’s something important: the SFW–NSFW toggle doesn’t just affect content. It completely changes how your girl looks in pictures.

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI offers two ways to generate images:

• In-chat image generation: Quickly create images using free-text prompts.
• Dedicated Image Creator: A separate tool that gives you more control and customization

In-chat image works simply: Just type “send me” in chat, followed by the prompt for the image you want to see.

You can only generate SFW images — NSFW content isn’t allowed here.

Note: Works only with characters you created or those shared by other users.

Dedicated Image Creator lets you stay in control:

• Character selection for image generation
• Multiple engines to choose from: Monet, Picasso, DaVinci
• Number of images to generate: 1–64
• Free-text prompt option for maximum customization
• Default preset options: Action, Body, Clothing, Scene, Extras, with lots of presets.

Quality: At first glance, the images look good and could even pass for real photos, but on closer inspection, they’re pixelated.

Quirk: The images don’t match my girl’s main profile picture, and physical inconsistency is definitely an issue.

Video Generation

Spicychat AI

The app doesn't generate videos of your AI girl - period. You'll need to look at different options.

Secret Desires AI

Secret Desires AI turns static photos into videos, using settings almost identical to photo generation, with the added option to set video duration.

The good: These videos look natural. Your AI girlfriend's movements flow smoothly, and her personality stays consistent from photo to video.

Not so good: Video quality isn’t perfect — some pixelation is noticeable, though it’s minor enough not to disrupt the experience.

Voice Generation

Spicychat AI

During testing, the voice came across as fairly good overall, clear and consistent — but still carried a slightly mechanical feel.

Even when things turned flirty, the delivery shifted to match the mood, but it still felt generic.

Secret Desires AI

Yes, the voices sound human enough, but every line feels like it’s being read off a teleprompter on fast-forward.

And if you’re hoping for emotional range? Forget it. Whether you’re flirting or just chatting, the delivery stays as flat as week-old soda

Safety & Privacy

Spicychat AI

SpicyChat won't tell you exactly how they protect these conversations. Just a vague promise of "commercially acceptable" protection.

They don't sell your data to advertisers. But they also don't tell you how long they keep your information or what happens to it when you delete your account.

You’ll see “NextDay AI Incorporated” on your bank statement — at least it’s discreet.

Secret Desires AI

The app claims your chats are "secure and confidential" - but never explains how.

There's no mention of encryption, and they're not clear about who can access your conversations or how long they keep them.

One clear promise: they won't sell your data to advertisers. But that's where the transparency ends.

During my testing, I couldn't find straight answers about data sharing with third parties like analytics providers or hosting services.

On your bank statement, it just shows as ‘Dover First SDA Hope Food Program Food Pantry’ — pretty discreet